Message to the Despondent (SOC)

By: Jonathan Noble

You have been uniquely and wonderfully designed
Into an individual person of which there is no other
Nor has there ever been, nor will there ever be again;
And your self is of inestimable value
And immeasurable worth right now;
Do not give in to despair and despondency this day
Or any other day . . . God loves you
And someone else loves you, too!
Chances are you are valued by many people, in fact,
And you don’t have to change your face or language,
Your skin color or height, weight or sound of voice
To be the amazing person you are already as you!
And if you need to change your heart,
Then grab hold of love, peace and joy,
And especially hope and allow these to transform,
But don’t allow yourself to think you are a mistake
Because that in itself would be the worst mistake!
And whether you can quite see it right now or not,
You have meaning and purpose in life in this world,
A genuinely unique purpose no one else can fulfill;
Yes, you! The ‘you’ who you are, bright shining star!
And enjoy the world around you;
After all, it was finely crafted for you to truly enjoy,
Along with so many, many other people in your life!
No, don’t hide yourself away in some darkened hole;
Breathe in the Spirit and awaken your soul this day,
And begin to soak up Life in all its amazing grandeur!
You are worth it! Yes, you … You’re worth fulfillment!

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Depression: Taking the First Step

By: Patty Wolters

The sun and moon switch in the sky, every morning, every night. You, however, don’t want to get up, or you stare at the ceiling unable to fall asleep. The weather girl telling you another day without the sun is ahead of you, or you long for a long cold winter to numb your feelings. The love of your life no longer feels the same way about you. You got fired, you lost your house. Maybe, your physical health prohibits you from following your dreams. So many reasons why a person can get depressed.

Are you really depressed?

Every now and then, you feel down, don’t want to get up, or you get moody watching the weather girl, that doesn’t automatically mean you are depressed. Every human being has his/her ‘bad days’. I call that being depri, it is a Dutch abbreviation from depressie (depression). Taking a sick day, watching a movie and eating your favorite snacks, will make you feel better.

Do you feel gloomy every day, see only dark colors in your future? Feel like sleeping all day long, or aren’t able to sleep at all? Feel the need to eat constantly, or don’t have any desire to eat? Thoughts like “Why even bother, I will never feel happiness again” and maybe even “I just want to die?”

When you recognize all described feelings and situations and if they are applicable to you (almost) every day and for longer than two weeks in a row … Depression could be the reason why you feel stuck. Stuck in those painful emotions and thoughts. Overwhelmed by feelings of being alone and nobody understanding you.

You know you are depressed for sure?

Let me tell you… No… Let me reassure you: you are not the only one! I am a person who has to be aware of not becoming overwhelmed with sad and negative thoughts about the world around me and about myself. It took me a while to accept, that not everyone will understand me, or get what is important to me. That isn’t easy and feeling alone, in this world full of beautiful souls, well…that happens to me too.

If you become depressed once, you most likely will have to deal with depression throughout your life.

Now, that isn’t very hopeful, is it? That is why I wanted to write this article. To let you know, there IS hope. There really is!

Sure, you should go to a doctor, psychologist, therapist and if you google, you will find all the necessary information you need to educate yourself about this mental condition and where you can find the support you need. Did you know, for instance, food is also a big influence on how you feel? You don’t need to become the next famous bodybuilder; however, exercise can be helpful too. But…

Taking that first step, the first step back up that negative spiral, it will be tough. Reaching out to another person, ignoring those feelings of shame or being unworthy might seem impossible. You probably don’t even trust yourself anymore, and now I tell you to trust another soul?

Yes, I do. Because you know what? You have nothing left to lose…

Right?


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Set Yourself Free!

By: Monica Pana
I had trouble on a road that doesn’t smile, at least not to me. Sometimes it seems inaccessible, other times it is easier than clouds. I walk on fingertips in strange places, devoid of souls. It’s too cold, it’s cold in every man and that makes me feel cold, too. 
I feel like I swim upstream in a river that leads nowhere. I feel I’m a mistake, but I know that mistakes do not define me. Sometimes I feel like I see another life, another world, something beyond the boundary line between the real and ideal. A place I would have loved more than anything if it were not mine.
It looks different if you look from the outside. It seems that it looks more beautiful, especially if you do not feel it and if it does not touch you. It’s an unbearable place, sometimes it seems lifeless, but other times more alive than a full life. It is dislocated from fear and surrounded by cold.
It’s a continuous storm here, but it’s not about weather, it’s a storm of thoughts and ideas, ideas that bring rain and thoughts that remain in the sky becoming stars. Feelings are floating in nothingness being taken by the wind from the real life. It’s hard to imagine this world, it is inaccessible and dangerous.
It’s a maze of a confused and frightened mind. It’s a paradise of the childhood and the inferno where you feel immortal. It’s hard to make peace with your mind, but it’s even harder when it leads you. You must learn to accept the storm, to embrace your thoughts and ideas, to let emotions to show you what beauty means.
It’s hard, but it’s possible: TO LET YOURSELF FREE!

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Please DO Get Your Hopes Up

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By: Kate Corbin

“Get your hopes up! Expect something good to happen to you every day.”
– Joyce Meyer
 
“Don’t Get Your Hopes Up!”  We’ve heard that advice all our lives.  Family, friends, books and movies have all warned us not to get our hopes up.  It’s part of our popular culture.  You may even say it yourself, but did you ever think about what you’re saying?
 
Don’t Get Your Hopes Up is possibly the worst guidance ever.  It’s advising us not to hope and not to have desires – which can only result in a low vibration.
 
Like most people, I absorbed this teaching by osmosis.  I also remember when I said it for the last time. 
 
I was in my 20’s and I was telling my brother about a job I really wanted, adding that I’m not getting my hopes up about it.  Whereupon my older, wiser brother – who had by that time studied Eastern philosophy in India – pointed out how stupid I was being – as only a sibling can!   He went on to explain why not getting my hopes up is ridiculous.  Thank you, dear bro, for waking me up.
 
So why IS it ridiculous to avoid getting our hopes up?  Besides the fact that it’s unnatural to quash our hopes and dreams and besides the fact that it keeps our vibration low, it’s all fear-based.
 
It’s based on some crazy fear that if we don’t get what we’re hoping for, we’ll end up feeling disappointed.  But I ask you, is disappointment really too much to bear?  Isn’t disappointment a part of life that most of us learned by age 5 is survivable? 
 
Here’s the most significant thing.  To refuse to get our hopes up is to ignore the Law of Attraction.  Because hope is a high vibration.  Because the power of hope and positive expectation actually help us attract what we want. Because hope works for us, not against us!
 
“If you don’t have a dream,
how you gonna have a dream come true?”
– from the movie, South Pacific
 
Plus, I hasten to add, hope feels good!  Refusing to be hopeful is a missed opportunity to feel good.  And, since we know that feeling good is the best way to attract what we want, refusing to hope is like shooting yourself in the foot. 
 
If you don’t get what you want, you’ll live; you’ll grow; you’ll get greater clarity; something better will come along.  But if you continue suppressing your hope, you won’t live well.
 
And one more thing.  Refusing to get our hopes up does not guarantee we’ll avoid disappointment.  In fact, refusing to hope sets us up for disappointment.
 
Two questions: 
1) Do you want it? 
2) Will you allow yourself to have it?
 
If yes and yes, then absolutely do get your hopes up.  Get them up as high as possible.  Ride the high vibrational energy of positive expectation and enjoy the journey.  If it doesn’t happenScience Articles, so what?  Focus on the next desire with all the hope you can muster. And keep hope alive!


Kate Corbin is a Law of Attraction Coach and the creator of Gold Star Coaching. Both her coaching practice and her three eBooks – “Dining at the Cosmic Cafe, How to Be and Do and Have Whatever You Desire;” “Manifesting from the Inside Out with the Law of Attraction;” and “Think and Grow Thin with the Law of Attraction” – are designed to empower you to truly live the life of your dreams. To contact Coach Kate and download a free copy of her eBook “Magical Musings on the LOA,” visit Gold Star Coaching.

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Just What Is Counseling: The Basics

umbrellaBy: Jonathan Noble

Counselling is simply defined as “the provision of assistance and guidance in resolving personal, social, or psychological problems and difficulties, especially by a professional.” However, there is probably far, far more “lay counselling” than professional counselling that occurs on a daily basis.

The American Counseling Association remarks:

Counseling is a collaborative effort between the counselor and client. Professional counselors help clients identify goals and potential solutions to problems which cause emotional turmoil; seek to improve communication and coping skills; strengthen self-esteem; and promote behavior change and optimal mental health.

Breaking this down then (and adding to), any true counseling, even at the lay-level (which, again, occurs far more often than at the professional level) includes:

  • Identifying the problem(s)
  • Understanding the problem(s)
    • You can listen and hear the problem, yet not truly understand the problem. Which is why it is important to repeat back what you’ve just heard in your own words so the “client,” family member or friend, has the opportunity to correct you, if necessary, and elaborate, all for the purpose of genuine understanding
  • Identifying goals and possible solutions to the problem(s)
  • Trying to create and implement coping skills — that is, abilities and the aptitude to manage day-to-day living while the problem(s) is being solved or, if the problem(s) are ultimately unsolvable , then the abilities and aptitude to minimalize the problem(s) as much as is reasonably possibly while continuing to live as healthily and vibrantly as possible on a day-to-day basis
  • Strengthening self-esteem, which necessarily goes hand-in-glove with the above
  • Promoting behavioral change — if, when and to the extent necessary — while also helping strive for optimal psychological, physical and spiritual health

This is not to say everyone can do this, but this at least provides a baseline for basic counseling even, or especially, at the lay level. And, yes, professional help may certainly be necessary, so the “lay counselor” should ideally know when to say, “You really need more help than I can provide. Let’s see about getting you in to talk with a professional about all of this.” Responses will vary, but if this step is necessary then it’s necessary and non-negotiable.

An awful lot of counseling — dare we say most — not only occurs at the “lay level” but is individual, that is, one-to-one. And this often involves an individual prospect of receiving support and experiencing growth during very difficult, taxing times in life. Consequently, the “lay counselor” can help that family member or friend (or whomever) deal with an array personal issues in life such as: anger, depression, stress, alcoholism, relationship difficulties, changes in employment … and the list goes on.

However, there are some “ground rules” even for “lay counselling,” and even more so for professionals. Suppose a friend comes to you with a crisis in her life, there are a few do’s and don’ts to keep in mind:

  • If the problem/crisis is beyond your skills and capabilities, by all means listen and be compassionate, but recommend professional counseling. Don’t jump into the deep end of the pool if you’re not a good swimmer or not a swimmer at all. You could end up hurting more than helping … and that happens far too often as it is!
  • Listen carefully. Concentrate. Think. Repeat back what you’ve just heard in your own words so your friend has the opportunity to correct you, if necessary, and elaborate on the crisis-issue, all for the purpose of genuine understanding.
  • By all means, maintain confidentiality unless they are planning on hurting themselves or someone else.
  • Try to remain as calm as possible. Your friend is probably already as emotionally charged as she needs to be already, whether she shows this outwardly or not. Don’t add fuel to the fire. Remain calm … but not dispassionate, which leads to…
  • Be as empathetic and as affirmative as is reasonably possible. Even when trying to discourage certain behavior and/or actions, try to do this as compassionately and considerately as possible.
  • If you have jumped in the pool with your friend, so to speak, set a time limit for swimming. You don’t want to drown yourself while trying to save her; in the end, both of you will drown.
    • This means setting some kind of time limit for individual, one-on-one conversation — much like professionals — as well as broader time limit on trying to help your friend deal with her crisis-issue. So for the one-on-one, you may not want to go past an hour or so, except for the initial conversation that might naturally last longer precisely because it is the initial conversation. Even then, you need to know when to start winding things down and bringing the one-on-one to a close. More broadly speaking, if you have been “counseling” your friend two or three times a week for a number of weeks and there has obviously been no progress, then perhaps it’s time to call it quits — not on the friendship! but the counseling — and encourage her to seek out and obtain professional help.
  • Know yourself. No matter what time limits you’ve tentatively established, there are other boundaries, too. If you find yourself struggling to stay afloat in your own daily life because of your friend’s problem(s), then it is perhaps best to encourage her toward better, healthier, stronger help, which may (but not necessarily) mean someone who is a professional.

So, can just anyone be a counselor? No, not even a “lay counselor,” because they just don’t have the wherewithal to do it and do it right. If that’s you, then it’s okay. It’s better to openly admit that to yourself, and other if and when necessary, than to risk hurting someone. However, if this is not you and you find yourself in a counseling-type position, then hopefully this brief article has been of some benefit to you. Even still, two or three courses (online or on-campus) in basic counseling might not be a bad idea!


Note: Jonathan David Noble is an essayist, poet, cultural critic and social service volunteer, who currently resides in Dothan, Alabama. Jonathan Noble holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in history, with a double-minor in English and Latin from Troy State University (Troy, Alabama), and a Master of Arts degree in Christian studies from Wesley Seminary (Jackson, Mississippi.) Furthermore, he has earned post-graduate certification in Information and Referral Services through AIRS (Alliance of Information and Referral Specialists); certification in Integrative and Complementary Healthcare, certification in Integrative Mental Health; and certification in Spirituality, Health & Healing through ALLEGRA Learning Solutions, LLC. The copyrights on the article belong to the author. The responsibility for the opinions expressed in the article belongs exclusively to the author.

Be-Aware! of the clouds, In 2017

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You said

We had our own sky

Only the clouds

Mis-lead us

By floating, And creating

Illusions,

Hallucinations,

Into our minds

Does that mean

We need to clear our visions?

Or, we need to clear the clouds?

I know,

The sky is there

And will be gone no-where,

Until we are gone !

Then,

What is the ultimate reason

For the reason?

To clear the sky?

Or, To clear the vision?

But,

What is the sky?

What are the clouds?

Which ones are mine?

And, which ones are thy-ne?


We have our own sky,no matter where we lie, in the sky or in the clouds so high. The clouds float, cover our sky , hide our visions, for no good reasons and change like seasons. Why clouds are there?, everywhere, so that we care, and its no rare, to include the clouds, in our prayer?

These clouds distract us, our thoughts, our ultimate goals, and the good reasons, for which we are here on this Earth. So, What are our goals? To abolish the clouds, the wandering clouds and to clear our sky, clear our visions, for the good reasons and be a constant season? So that, our sky shines clearer, brighter and everyone admires its beauty.

The New Year 2017 starts. We have our own goals, dreams, thoughts and better visions  and resolutions for the year.Lets not let clouds mislead us,dis-tract us and create illusions into our minds. Lets make our sky beautiful,which shines like the diamond, inside this space.

We are here “Pax Et Dolor” team wishing you grand Happy New Year 2017 and wishing for abolish-ment of clouds from our sky-s.

Thank-You so much for being with us ! Your love and support is priceless.

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Toward A Complaint-Free Life

By: Kate Corbin

Facebook Memories reminded me I had engaged in a complaint-free week in 2011.  It was an interesting and revealing week.  Here’s a recap:

Day #1.  For the next seven days, I’m committed to living a Complaint-Free life.  Zero tolerance for complaining or blaming.

[I got the idea from Will Bowen, the founder of an organization called A Complaint Free World.  I posted my commitment and invited Facebook friends to join in.]

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” – Eckhart Tolle

Complaining, griping, kvetching – we all do it, right?  Complaining can be a habit and, for most of us, it’s pretty easy to get others to commiserate with us.  It can even feel anti-social not to join in someone else’s bitch session.  But is complaining really a habit worth continuing?

Facebook Memories reminded me I had engaged in a complaint-free week in 2011.  It was an interesting and revealing week.  Here’s a recap:

Day #1.  For the next seven days, I’m committed to living a Complaint-Free life.  Zero tolerance for complaining or blaming.

[I got the idea from Will Bowen, the founder of an organization called A Complaint Free World.  I posted my commitment and invited Facebook friends to join in.]

Day #2.  It’s natural to notice things we don’t like. That’s the contrast that inspires desire. The contrast also sets up a crossroads. We can complain and attract more of what we don’t like OR we can make peace with what-is, focus on what we prefer and attract more of the good stuff.

[I get to choose how I respond and it matters very much what I choose.  As A Course in Miracles proclaims, “I could choose love instead!”  Or fun . . . or joy . . . or . . . ]

Day #3.  I notice my tendency to complain when I have to wait – at the chiropractor’s office, checking out at the grocery store, etc. I’m wondering – Is complaining a response to feeling powerless?

[It may feel like I’m taking my power back when I complain, but complaining actually lowers my vibration and exacerbates my feeling of powerlessness.]

Day #4.  The weather forecast calls for a high of 108 here in Austin. Rather than complaining about the heat, I intend to appreciate the air conditioning and imagine cool crisp fall weather coming.

[My neighbor was bemoaning the heat wave that day and I responded that I’d love to join in but I had committed to a complaint-free week.  We both laughed.]

Day #5.  I bet if we REALLY got it that we create our own reality, instead of complaining about a reality we don’t like, we’d get busy creating a reality we prefer.

[Complaining only brings us more to complain about.]

“Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle.” – Benjamin Franklin

Day #6. If I say it’s too damn hot or this traffic sucks or why did she cut my hair so short, I’m complaining. If I say it’s really hot, there’s a lot of traffic today, she sure cut my hair short this time, I’m noticing. One is a complaint and one is an observation.  And the vibrational difference is huge.

[This was a fun realization.  I can notice what-is without complaining about it.]

Day #7.  Calls to customer service departments have often been less than a cakewalk for me so I set a strong intention before calling AT&T today.  It worked!  I sailed through the entire call without complaint and proved that – with the right attitude – I can enjoy every moment of this physical life experience.

[How empowering to know that it’s possible to enjoy any situation.  Well, if not enjoy, at least accept.]

Revisiting my Complaint-Free Week reminded me:

  • How much easier it is to maintain a high vibration when I refuse to give in to blaming and complaining.
  • I can always choose a better feeling response.
  • Instead of complaining about a reality I don’t like, I can focus on the reality I prefer and, thus, create a better feeling experience.

Today I’m recommitting to a complaint-free life and I’m super determined to find something positive about every situation.

Will you join me?


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