Toward A Complaint-Free Life

By: Kate Corbin

Facebook Memories reminded me I had engaged in a complaint-free week in 2011.  It was an interesting and revealing week.  Here’s a recap:

Day #1.  For the next seven days, I’m committed to living a Complaint-Free life.  Zero tolerance for complaining or blaming.

[I got the idea from Will Bowen, the founder of an organization called A Complaint Free World.  I posted my commitment and invited Facebook friends to join in.]

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” – Eckhart Tolle

Complaining, griping, kvetching – we all do it, right?  Complaining can be a habit and, for most of us, it’s pretty easy to get others to commiserate with us.  It can even feel anti-social not to join in someone else’s bitch session.  But is complaining really a habit worth continuing?

Facebook Memories reminded me I had engaged in a complaint-free week in 2011.  It was an interesting and revealing week.  Here’s a recap:

Day #1.  For the next seven days, I’m committed to living a Complaint-Free life.  Zero tolerance for complaining or blaming.

[I got the idea from Will Bowen, the founder of an organization called A Complaint Free World.  I posted my commitment and invited Facebook friends to join in.]

Day #2.  It’s natural to notice things we don’t like. That’s the contrast that inspires desire. The contrast also sets up a crossroads. We can complain and attract more of what we don’t like OR we can make peace with what-is, focus on what we prefer and attract more of the good stuff.

[I get to choose how I respond and it matters very much what I choose.  As A Course in Miracles proclaims, “I could choose love instead!”  Or fun . . . or joy . . . or . . . ]

Day #3.  I notice my tendency to complain when I have to wait – at the chiropractor’s office, checking out at the grocery store, etc. I’m wondering – Is complaining a response to feeling powerless?

[It may feel like I’m taking my power back when I complain, but complaining actually lowers my vibration and exacerbates my feeling of powerlessness.]

Day #4.  The weather forecast calls for a high of 108 here in Austin. Rather than complaining about the heat, I intend to appreciate the air conditioning and imagine cool crisp fall weather coming.

[My neighbor was bemoaning the heat wave that day and I responded that I’d love to join in but I had committed to a complaint-free week.  We both laughed.]

Day #5.  I bet if we REALLY got it that we create our own reality, instead of complaining about a reality we don’t like, we’d get busy creating a reality we prefer.

[Complaining only brings us more to complain about.]

“Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle.” – Benjamin Franklin

Day #6. If I say it’s too damn hot or this traffic sucks or why did she cut my hair so short, I’m complaining. If I say it’s really hot, there’s a lot of traffic today, she sure cut my hair short this time, I’m noticing. One is a complaint and one is an observation.  And the vibrational difference is huge.

[This was a fun realization.  I can notice what-is without complaining about it.]

Day #7.  Calls to customer service departments have often been less than a cakewalk for me so I set a strong intention before calling AT&T today.  It worked!  I sailed through the entire call without complaint and proved that – with the right attitude – I can enjoy every moment of this physical life experience.

[How empowering to know that it’s possible to enjoy any situation.  Well, if not enjoy, at least accept.]

Revisiting my Complaint-Free Week reminded me:

  • How much easier it is to maintain a high vibration when I refuse to give in to blaming and complaining.
  • I can always choose a better feeling response.
  • Instead of complaining about a reality I don’t like, I can focus on the reality I prefer and, thus, create a better feeling experience.

Today I’m recommitting to a complaint-free life and I’m super determined to find something positive about every situation.

Will you join me?


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